Going to Uni and Living at Home

When most people think of university, dorms and leaving your parents for the first time is what comes to mind; finally living on your own and being your own person is what university normally entails. Yet, when googling “university advice”, people seem to forget about the people who don’t leave their houses, the kids who stay at home and commute to school.

When researching schools, I had 100% intended to go away for school. I wanted to attend Ryerson in Toronto and take their sports media program but when it came down to it, I found that in my city there was a public relations program that absolutely was what I should take. I ended up choosing to stay home, against my initial wishes.

I can’t say it’s great. I will not say it’s the best. In fact, staying home and going to school has been beyond difficult. I feel like I am attending high school part two. To get to my university is also basically the exact same way as how I would get to my high school; drive straight and then take a left, it’s just a different left now. So, I feel like nothing I am doing is different other than my education. Yet, I know this is the program that is the best for me.

That was the most difficult decision on my part. Do I choose four years of fun and freedom or do I choose the program that is the best for my future career? We all know that choosing your career is the right option, but when is it worth giving up a normal university experience?

My school does not have homecoming, there are no parties, there are no hyped up sports games, we don’t even have a football team (I don’t watch football but I feel like that’s just a university right of passage), it’s small and straight forward. Now, I am not saying my school isn’t amazing, in reality, I am absolutely in love with my program. I get excited to go to class and don’t mind doing my homework, which is something extremely new to me but on the other hand I feel like I am also missing out on everything else.

I have friends at Queens, Western and all of those east coast schools and they are constantly having the time of their lives. Regardless of the partying, my friends are making new lifelong friends and experiencing a whole new world and I am not.

Now, I am not saying I am not having a great time living at home. It obviously has it’s perks but I can say I am living a completely different university experience than anyone else I know. To me, this seems more like an independent learning excursion. The classes are small and the ages range profusely, but I am gaining knowledge that I would not gain in any other program.

I am probably the most excited for the two work terms that I will be able to do throughout my uni years. I am a person that constantly likes to be doing different things and to have this chance to spend time doing something entirely new is so wanted and so needed. If I weren’t able to do these terms, I honestly do believe I would be considering switching schools regardless of my degree.

I love my university. I do. It’s an amazing school and my program is beyond perfect and anyone I know who has graduated from here also speaks very highly of the school. It’s just a different way of living; there is no other way to explain it other than different.

Anyway, I do think in the future I will be sad that I missed out on a real, movie like, university experience but I can’t say that it came with long lasting consequences. I will miss out on the roommates, the parties, the wholesomeness of living in a small town where a massive school is, but on the other hand when I graduate with the degree that will give me the best opportunities possible, I don’t think I will be that sad or regretful. I think I will be excited I chose my education first. I will be happy I got to spend a couple more years at home with my parents. I will be happy I saved the money I could, but I have also accepted that there will be times that I am sad and having major fomo (fear of missing out) but in the end, it will definitely all be worth it when I am older in the exact job I want.


3 thoughts on “Going to Uni and Living at Home

  1. Great post!! This accurately describes my internal conflicts when I was choosing a school. I’m a sophomore who commutes to a 4-year large university everyday, and although it does suck sometimes, it is not that bad. I too feel like it is a 13th, 14th grade, 15th grade & 16th grade, but in the long-run, it probably won’t matter if one lives on campus or commutes. From an economic standpoint, commuting is genius; I tell myself everyday whilst stuck in traffic that I have already saved myself $20,000 by not living on campus.


  2. I went as far away as I possibly could for my undergrad, and weirdly enough, it was a more stable environment than living at home would have been, since my parents were/are divorced and I had been going back and forth between their houses since the second grade. However, now that I’m in grad school, I’m living at home again, and although there have been a number of moves so that my parents aren’t in the same city so I *can’t* do the back and forth thing, it does feel like high school again. Especially when I come home to a list of chores like I’m 12 again.


    1. Exactly. It’s a weird feeling. You know that there are so many perks to living at home but on the other hand it definitely feels like I’m have for more years of high school. I believe if I had moved out it would have been a different story. I know I am living in my parents house so it’s their rules but I think it’s going to be very difficult for me to grow and find what kind of person I am if I never get the chance to go out on my own.


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